Asked by courtneyjean2000
Coming out to homophobic parents can be scary, but I have faith that you’ll do great. Each individual situation is different, so I cannot give you the easiest way to do it, but I can try to give you general tips.
1) With some parents, it may be easier to tell them one at a time. With others, it may be easier to tell them together. You know your parents best and will be the only one that will be able to gauge how to handle this.
2) Do not get defensive or offensive, try to remain calm no matter what happens.
3) Respect their opinions/religious views and give them a chance to voice them, but no matter what, hold your ground. Do not let them tell you that this is a phase, and you will not change.
4) Let them know that even though you won’t be able to change, you won’t change. Their knowledge of your sexuality has nothing to do with who you are as a person.
5) Be clear that even if they do not approve, you do not require their permission to be who you are.
6) Don’t say too much or too little. Be keen on how the conversation is going, and try to say what you think they want to hear while at the same time getting your point across.
Good luck darling and stay beautiful. Love is a wonderful thing, nobody should hold you back from it.